The Transition- Phase1

"Gone are those days...but I can't forget them.
So what can I do...to gradually revive them?"

I relate to this phrase so much. So would any of you I guess. But the fact remains, that a fact can never be ignored. So the above phrase would always just remain a thought. Time therefore cannot be brought back. But I always believe that nothing can be more precious than memories. Memories are the only thing that can bind all ages and all times together...forever.

"Get up beta...time for school." "Please mamma...5 more mins."
Ahhh...The first step to life...School!! And what days they were!! It’s so true we never value what we have. And always value whatever is gone. School days lay down the foundation of ones life. Be it discipline, qualities or even personality. I was in a girl’s convent school. And we had the time of our life!! In fact even now when there's a re-union we school friends always recall those carefree times which are still afresh in our minds. We had never felt even for a second the need for our school to be a co-ed one. We were enough for ourselves...and our stupid acts. Little did we know then, that life is not just about this. But school life can never be erased from our minds. And we make sure that none of us do.

Then came the first transition in life. The big, built up world of COLLEGE. I always thought college is like "Kuch kuch hota hai". A fairytale land with srk, rani and kajol (daydreaming that I’m kajol who gets srk in the end). But it was on the day of my farewell at school when I realized that I don't want to separate from my good old pals. As if I had a choice. Yes, that’s when it came to my mind that life is about acceptance. You are not given choices always. First few days in college were hell. New faces, new people, whom to believe, whom not to. And me being an introvert, I found it difficult to mingle around. Then friend, relatives advised. "Give it time, it’s a gradual process. You will like it after all." I decided I’ll give it a try.

As time passed by, I realised how difficult i was finding it to converse with guys. So being used to surrounded by all gals, it was a task in itslef. But a great learning experience. College, I believe is all about building up your self-confidence...and ofcourse your last chance to enjoy all the freedom you've got. I have made some of the greatest pals (including guys ofcourse..common yaar they are not so bad) i could have ever imagined in college. Its been such a wonderful journey of 5 years throughout with each one of them. And i take all attempts today and always will do in future, to catch up with them from time to time. Some of my most stupidest but most cherished memories were during college life..Be it while travelling, just wailing away time at the "katta", guy-watching, cute crushes (though they sadly got crushed), rose days, hogging at DP's or the sandwiches with friends like as if we've not had food since days!!...and ofcourse our college festival..RAPPORT-always rocking..the jam sessions, and last but not the least, every special moment in our group..and finally, the most emotional moment for any individual in his/her lifetime- last day of college, which for us was the last day of college fest in the 3rd year. And i still laugh at myself when i look back that i was actually the first person to burst out in front of my group..and that too listening to the most EMO song- Kabhi Alvida Na Kehna!!

The Transition- Phase 2

Friends, I'm back again with "The Transition". I was studying for CA along with graduation. So after grad exams i had to start working as an article for 2 years. That was the 2nd transition in my life. Studying for CA itself is a lot of hardwork, perseverence, and luck. But no complaints on that. The fact is one can't imagine what a huge turn life can take after college. I mean, you can no more be immature, you've got to be responsible for what your always doing, you always have to keep reminding yourself "Ok college lifes over, you no more have freedom to even think that things should be the way you want to", balance realtionships with your carrier...Phew, thats too much burden already on our tiny shoulders. Exactly, 2nd lesson learnt..Adjustment and acceptance. Without these 2 things, you'll only be left behind. You've got to be a little selfish, yet a bit caring.. A bit egoistic, and also at times down to earth...Learn to say No when you have to. This phase of life actually grooms you into the person actually you want to be and reflects your true personality. This was the time i understood the difference between crush and love, the politics in office. "Be yourself" is rubbish. It doesnt work always. You've got to be artificial at times. And i'm still in the process of understanding myself!!

2 years of articleship were trying times for me. A lot of learning, dealing with complex people, but loads of mistakes i've made, believe me. You can't just throw your anger and frustrations all around, you've got to be so tactical. This was the time i actually understood what life is, how serious it should be taken. I would long socializing with friends or even wait for that one sunday to come. Then came those never ending 6 months before my CA final exams, but this period was meant to be the most decisive period for my carrier life in future. I had to compromise on family functions, get togethers, parties, or even just catching up with good pals. All time at home, i was meant to be studying all day for exams after 6 months. And the most irritating part was to say a NO to your near and dear ones that you can't meet them. Few used to understand my situation that how boring it is to be sitting at home all day (especially after working for 1 1/2 years), but yet not being able to make it. Though yes I did take out more time for my family during that time, went out locally and also had good set of breaks (which actually extended for long hours) But such was the importance of this study and the expectations my parents had in me. It was more like a penance. I kept telling myself each day that how rewarding the time would be once i have a positive result, or how much i could enjoy just after my exams are over.

Now my exams are over..I am relaxing, chilling, blogging and catching up with everyone i know..But now the difficult part is how i should wail away my time!! I am awaiting my results (fingers crossed, as not all my papers were good). And I also keep wondering now what the 3rd transition in life can be like. Work, carrier, marriage?? Too many responsibilities. Life only seems to be getting more and more complex. And because of this mindset, we forget to value the most dearest realtions we already have, and to trust them. The negativity overcomes the good within us. But I always follow this principle- "Take control over your life..before Life can take control over you!" And always accept situations the way they are and face them..Don't run away. That will help us welcome any number of transitions with a smile. And with this I sign off for now friends, while I wait for whats in store for me next!!